Just as important as it is to say “Yes!" to exciting, new opportunities, it is also important to learn how to say “No".
Saying no doesn’t have to be negative. It doesn’t have to be hurtful or seen as you letting other people down.
It’s about cutting out the unnecessary, the bad, the things you don’t enjoy or don’t serve you. It's like taking a minimalistic approach to your daily activities. Saying "no thank you" to certain things will allow you to say "Yes, please!" to more good things.
It might sound a little selfish to some, but learning to say no is important.
I don’t know about you, but I’m the sort of person who wants to please everyone, make everyone else happy and I HATE when people are mad at me or dislike me.
But when you’re busy running around trying to make everyone else happy, who do you think gets left behind? Yup, you and your needs.
Whether it’s your period week and you don’t have it in you to go out, or it’s on vacation and you don’t want to go do an activity on a particular day. It’s OK to say no.
When I was able to do that during my menstrual phase, it helped my periods go by smoother. And when I started doing it on this trip I was finally able to make time for a few habits and tasks that had been getting behind when I was trying to do everything that everyone else wanted to do.
I’ve been able to start back up on my morning journaling routine. Some may think it’s overkill, but I get so much from my different journals each and every day. I can see the difference, and I can feel the difference.
I was also able to miss out on activities and adventures I wasn't interested in at that time in order to sit down and do some much needed work. And it amazed me how much joy I got from just being able to work. I made sure to stop and send my gratitude out into the universe for this fact.
While yes, I’m technically on a “vacation” I’m also at the very beginning of FemmeHead being my full-time job, that means my main source of income. And while I’m setting it up to run itself most days, I still need to show up and put in a few hours of work here and there.
So, while I very much so believe in the power of yes, I also believe in the power of no. There is a balance between the two that you have to find for yourself. And what works for me may not work for you, but just realizing you can say no to people is something that a lot of people don’t think they can do.