I must have been geared up for an unreasonable amount of pregnancy criticism or something because I’ve been surprised with the lack of judgement and shaming I’ve received.
(No complaints about that of course!)
I just always heard that you’d get all this unsolicited advice and hear horror stories.
And so far I’ve had two instances of “judgement”.
The first was when I posted a video about realities of diet during my first trimester as a vegan. Of course that’s going to invite in those who don’t like or understand plant-based diets. So I got a few, “I hope you change your diet” comments but nothing too bad.
The second instance was recently when we were coming back from San Francisco. I was getting a cup of coffee at the airport and the lady ringing me up said “Not decaf? But you’re pregnant.” And I calmly replied that I knew the safe recommended limit and I was staying well below that with my one cup of coffee a day.She then went on to laugh and say “You know, if you drink coffee now the baby is going to come out drinking coffee!”
I gave her my sweetest crocodile smile and grabbed my cup of coffee. She probably gave me decaf anyways.
Oh and I guess there was that one weird DM conversation I had on Instagram where a lady gave me shit for not having a home birth and said my husband was trying to force me against my will into a medicated birth (her definition of us going for an unmedicated, vaginal birth in the hospital). Which of course isn’t true. I’m very excited to give birth with my midwives in the hospital this time.
So there you have it. My three experiences with pregnancy judgement. Hopefully I’m not inviting in more criticism by putting this out there into the universe, but I think I’ll be ok for the last 6 or so weeks.
What’s the craziest thing someone judged you for, or said to you while you were pregnant? Share those below.