It’s inevitable when some people find out you’re ditching the hormones and choosing a natural alternative.
There is a lot of confusion around fertility, birth control and our options.
So, when you get a lot of “But, you’re going to end up pregnant!” try not to get too frustrated.
Think back to when you didn’t know there was another way, before you knew how our fertility actually works.
Here’s how to have a polite conversation with someone who is “concerned” about you not being on hormonal birth control.
Start by sharing some of your favorite FAM, cycle, period facts. Pique their curiosity. [This is where books like “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” and “The Pill: Are You Sure It’s For You?” come in handy].
+ Did you know that women are actually only fertile around 7 days each cycle? And that’s mostly because sperm can live in a fertile vagina for up to 5 days.
+ Hormonal birth control alters at least 150 different bodily functions.
+ FAM is actually very different from the Rhythm Method, and when practiced correctly is over 98% effective.
Tell them why hormonal birth control wasn’t working for you, people are often shocked when you start listing off all the negative side effects you were experiencing and how you don’t have any of those since quitting.
+ I developed mild depress, anxiety, chronic UTI’s, gained weight, and had a substantial decline in my dental health after starting the pill [just to name a few].
Give them a brief overview of how FAM works. That there are different fertility signs that you track every day and use that information alongside a set of rules and guidelines to determine whether you’re fertile or not.
Make it clear that this isn’t a guessing game based on past cycles. It’s based in science and what is actually happening in your body.
And in the end they still might not be on board, but if you continue forward with your journey, learning, practicing the method safely and essentially “prove them wrong” you’d be amazed.
Sometimes still when I talk about not being on hormonal birth control and using FAM instead people will make some comment about pregnancy or how it doesn’t really work. And my calm comeback is that I have been using it successfully for over 4 years now, I know countless other women who use it too, and that I am much healthier and happier than I used to be.
Not to mention I don’t ever plan on taking hormonal birth control again.
At the end of the day it’s your body and your choice. You get to decide.
[If you're curious about ditching the pill, and what all that entails, grab your spot in my upcoming Ditch the Pill course, which starts August 21st. And if you're ready to learn all about FAM, sign up for my Chart Your Cycle course, which begins August 16th!]