Why I Could Get Down With a Modern Day Red Tent

It was probably a year ago that I read The Red Tent, and if you haven’t read this book, just go do it already. In fact, I kind of want to reread it. 

If you go searching for information about menstrual huts you often find stories about oppressive cultures and their traditions, but I like to look towards Native American moon lodges for inspiration. 

There is this incredible respect for menstruating women in most Native American cultures, and amazing respect for women in general. 

Some believe that women are purifying themselves during this time, not dirty and impure as many believe, and that women are the embodiment of a holy person during their period.

Women are believed to be more spiritually powerful and in tune during their period, and often consulted by others for advice.

Moon time is a time for women to come together in these special lodges, a time to be able to let go of their responsibilities, to come together with other bleeding women, share stories, gossip and give advice, to support one another, and to rest.

There is a legend I have seen a few times about why women menstruate. 

A long time ago, women were considered powerful in that they held in a lot of their family emotions, their joy and happiness but also their sadness and sorrow. They were the life-force of the family. However, sometimes that would become exhausting. 

So one day, the woman went to nature to try to find help and yelled out because the burden was too much. A Raven heard her and went to see her, asking her why she was crying. The woman stated she was overwhelmed with the burdens of her family. She loved her family but no longer could take everything in anymore. Raven said that he understood her pain and went to ask Grandmother Ocean for help. Grandmother Ocean offered to wash away the pain of the women who would come to her but that she could not help those farther away. So she went to ask for help from her sister, Grandmother Moon.

So Grandmother Moon said that she represented the feminine power and would send the waters of Grandmother Ocean into the women so her power would reach them. Once every moon cycle, Grandmother Ocean shall come into the women and purify them. And she did just that. Every month, there is thus a time when the women embody the power of Grandmother Moon and are cleansed by the waters of Grandmother Ocean.

Imagine being able to step away from life’s responsibilities for even a day to give your body, mind and soul what it needs?

There’s nothing I like more than getting together with other women and talking about menstrual related things, so a red tent is basically my dream scenario. 

Would you ever go to a red tent? Or have you ever? 

Listening to Your Body | Working With Your Menstrual Cycle

If you’re anything like me, I used to fight my period and cycle with all my might. And hey, maybe you still do? That a ok. It's pretty hard to change something you're not aware of.

So, today I want to dig into two different recent situations, where my body was telling me things because of my menstrual cycle, and how I have listened, haven’t listened, and the outcome because of that.

I am currently a few days away from starting my period, and it’s always around this time that my body, and sometimes mind, starts to slow down. I don’t have quite as much energy, and I definitely don’t have that social spark that I get around ovulation. 

My solution to this, that has worked very well for me, has been to work entirely from home (i.e. my kitchen counter and living room). I avoid networking, presenting ideas or proposals to others, and just about everything that falls within that social window. 

I have allowed my body and mind to move at a pace it functions best at, and I have been pleasantly surprised with my motivation and productivity. I have gotten more done in this past week than I have in the past month. 

Now, another example where I didn’t listen so clearly and tried to push past what my body/mind wanted — 

This time last month was two weeks before the ol’ wedding, meaning I had my period the week before the big "I do". 

I am much more emotional (not necessarily a bad thing) and I have much less patience. Normally, these two differences don’t effect me too much because I'm usually better at adjusting to it.

But with the stress, families coming into town, and non-stop, last minute running around, my mind and emotions were a bit fried. But I didn’t listen to my body because I didn’t think I had time to, and let’s just say I cried alone more than once from some small disagreement, decision that had to be made, or just because I was feeling uber stressed (and I was upset that I was feeling that way). 

Now, I obviously couldn’t have ignore my responsibilities those two weeks and hid in my apartment, but I could have taken a few more moments for myself. 

This month, I am fully prepared for, and welcoming of my period. I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection, practicing mindfulness and gratitude, and the end of my luteal phase and beginning of my menstrual phase are the perfect time to do all of these things. 

When was a time you can remember that you listened to your body when it was telling you to slow down, or maybe a time you didn’t? 

Using Jet Lag to Your Advantage | Creating a Better Routine

If you keep up with me on Instagram or Youtube you know that I recently got back from my trip to France (a.k.a. my honeymoon). 

And do you know what? I’ve been doing a really killer job at coming back and reseting my routine and schedule for maximum productivity and mindfulness.

Today, I wanted to share with you how I’ve learned to use jet lag to my advantage. 

The first and most important step is looking at your flight schedule — what time are you leaving (A) and what time will it be when you get to (B). We woke up at 7:30 a.m. in Toulouse and we would be getting back to Des Moines around 10:00 p.m. (it ended up being more like 11:55 p.m. — thanks a lot American Airlines). 

So we could see that when we got home to Des Moines we needed to be ready to go to bed. 

Now, in between those two time slots was nearly 24 hours. When we finally got home to Des Moines it was nearly 7 a.m. in Toulouse. That my friends, is a lot of staying up, with maybe a short little nap, but only if you could restrain yourself from sleeping too long. 

So, that’s the first step. Plan out your flight so you’ll arrive in whatever location as close to the level of awake or tiredness that you need to be at. 

For me there is about a week of wiggle room after an international flight to reset my sleep schedule. You have to fight the urges to sleep (quick cat naps are OK), but I have no self-restraint when it comes to jet lag and napping so I avoid it. 

I’ve been putting myself to bed around 9:30 - 10:00 p.m and setting my alarm for 7:00 a.m. but I’ve been naturally waking up around 6:00 - 6:30 a.m. My golden sleep slot is 10:00 p.m. to 6:00 a.m. so that’s what I’m working towards. 

Now, a few things that I do in the morning when I get up earlier than 8:00 a.m. — I sit and write in my morning pages journal, which takes 20 - 30 minutes. I spend 15 - 30 minutes tidying up around the apartment because my brain functions incredibly better when there’s not a bunch of clutter around. I have been consistently meditating for 10 minutes every morning around 8:00 a.m. using the HeadSpace app. I then make myself a cup of coffee or tea, create my to-do list for that day, and then get to it. 

My days go unbelievable smoother when I am allowed this hour and a half to two hour routine I have for myself in the morning. 

Then each night I’ve tried to spend the first few minutes in bed just writing a little bit in my actual journal. 

These are a few of the things that get me excited to wake up in the morning, get out of bed and get moving o